Chapter 198 – 198
“On the contrary, the more kind and gentle a person is and the more they blame themselves, the more likely they are to make extreme and unfortunate choices. “Don’t you think that the more self-involved they are, the better they are at blaming others, and the more shameless and shitty they are, the longer they live?”
“Oh.”
“So why are there so many sayings like this? ‘What do ghosts do, they don’t take away bastards like that?’ Or something like that. ‘If you curse a lot, you will live longer.’ ‘Why does God only take good people quickly?’ Or something like that. In fact, the more shameless a person is at blaming others, the better his mental defenses can be seen.”
“Hmm.”
“So, if there are people around you who are depressed or trying to make extreme choices, tell them to blame others or help them blame others. Not those who are already doing well. Only for people who are depressed and at risk. Do you know anything? “My brother might save someone’s precious life.”
“Okay. “If there is someone suffering from depression, I will do as you say.”
“It’s that bitch’s fault. It’s that bastard’s fault. Blame your senior, blame your successor, blame your boss, blame the incompetent management, blame the company, blame that bastard, blame society. It’s the country’s fault. Blame the parents. It’s because of the times. Blame the environment. Blame the genes. Blame it on luck. Blame it on bad luck… To a large extent, it means that nothing is more mentally healthy in the field of depression than blaming others.”
“Hmm.”
“On the other hand, if you start blaming yourself, your mental strength and emotions will be thrown into the gutter. Even when blaming luck, ‘me’ should not be the standard. The key is to blame the world for your bad luck. “It’s not my fault, it’s someone else’s fault.”
“I see.”
“Of course, people must have some degree of self-reflection and regret. That’s only if it’s productive. There is no point in repeating over and over again what has already passed, what cannot be undone, and what no human being can do. So, if someone is depressed, we need to teach them how to blame others.”
“Yes.”
“Actually, humans. Isn’t it difficult for an individual to change something significantly? A lot of things are already decided at birth. First of all, there is an era. Is it because individuals who were achieved in prehistoric and future times something? “It was just decided that way.”
“Yes…”
“Is it his fault that he was born in prehistoric times, suffered all his life, and died at the age of 20 from a simple cold and no fever reducer? Or is it because of that person’s efforts that he or she is born in a future era where all diseases and aging have been conquered and enjoys life by playing virtual reality games to his heart’s content? No. We know the answer. “Humans cannot escape their given environment.”
“Hmm.”
“I think the times have gone too far. Should we fix the era and only consider other things? For example, what about your nationality? Those born in Korea and those born in Somalia. There is a big difference between these two people from the start. It’s not like the two of them did something wrong or did well.”
“…”
“Should we fix the nationality as well? Even if you are born in America, some may be born in the slums and some may be born in Beverly Hills. Parents’ wealth and the genes they will pass on. In other words, appearance, personality, and talent?”
“Aren’t most things decided and born?”
“Huh. That’s right. Most people are born with everything decided. It is no exaggeration to say that 99% of human life is already decided at birth. We must not ignore the power of parents, family environment, and genes. “Your genes already pretty much determine what genetic disease you will develop and at what age you will develop it.”
“…”
“Personality? You can’t ignore personality or genes. The length of the pituitary gland, the shape of the diencephalon, the characteristics of the frontal lobe, the length and solubility of hormone receptors, etc. Those things determine whether a person is an extrovert or an introvert or what type of personality they have, right?”
“Hmm.”
“Guts? Mentality? All those things are decided there. People with ADHD can’t concentrate for 5 minutes. Actually, even 5 minutes was a lot of effort. But is that his fault? Even though it was already decided that way at birth? Or, if the mother forgot to drink or take drugs during pregnancy and developed a physical or brain disorder, it is not her fault.”
“So effort is meaningless? Because everything has already been decided.”
“Why is effort meaningless? I never said anything like that. “I know very well that your brain is in the head of your dick, but I hope you don’t think dichotomously like apes.”
“… Huh. Please say that…”
“Sorry. That was a bit harsh. Anyway, I don’t think you understand very well. Let’s say there is a person who was born disabled and has no arms, legs, or eyes. “No matter how hard this person tries, it is still difficult for him to act and live like an ordinary person with modern technology.”
“…”
“But is effort meaningless? That’s not true. And we’re talking about depression and suicide. Is it this person’s fault that he was born disabled? Should I blame myself? I heard there are great people who are disabled? Should we compare ourselves with the top 0.0001% of successful people with disabilities, reflect on our lives, and blame ourselves?”
“That’s not true.”
“Yes, that’s right. We humans must realize that it is extremely difficult to escape from a given environment, and we must clearly distinguish between what is our fault and what is not. So how can you tell them apart? You should look at the average value. Not like a strict daughter and a strict son who are good at everything. Even if you were born in prehistoric times, a good person would have lived well there. Same goes for Somalia. So don’t do that.”
“…”
“How did most people live in that environment? And is that their fault? The times were bad, and the environment in which I was born was just bad. Or maybe you just have bad genes. Or they were just born disabled or without talent.”
“Hmm.”
“So what I want to say is to people who are depressed because they are unhappy. For those who are considering extreme choices. It forces people to blame others and suggests ways to overcome the situation. “Perhaps 99.99% of the causes of the unhappiness or depression that a person experiences are not actually his or her fault?”
“Is that so?”
“Then. Of course. A soldier suffering from depression due to PTSD from killing someone in war or failing to save his comrades? Is it his fault? Or is it because of the time period in which the war took place? Are you depressed because your lover broke up with you after cheating? Is it his fault? Or is it the fault of the person who cheated? Or, looking more broadly, is it because of the genes that make us born ugly?”
“…”
“A child worried about poor test scores? To put it bluntly, it could be because mom and dad had a low IQ, a bad family environment, or they weren’t wealthy enough to hire a highly paid tutor.”
“Uh, um…”
“Bloodlines and genes cannot be ignored. Even if it is not necessarily from the parents, there is also atavistic inheritance. Don’t say stupid things like parents and children are very different. Why would humans manage the bloodlines and improve breeds of livestock such as horses and cows for no reason?”
“…”
“And in most cases, if the parents have good academic backgrounds, their children will also have good academic backgrounds. If parents are smart, their children are good too. The parents of the best MCs in Korea graduated from the best universities in Korea. The parents of the most famous sports players in Korea are all sports workers.”
“Hmm.”
“That’s why women want to have good seeds, and men who are strong, have leadership, and have the resources to take care of them when they conceive, give birth, and raise those seeds. “I like the so-called alpha male.”
“…”
“On the other hand, men look at the appearance of the woman who owns the genes that will be mixed with half of his seed her her her. The reason I like young women is because of the possibility of pregnancy and children with disabilities. If you are old, there is a high chance of being disabled or premature. Also, it is physically more difficult for older women to raise children than for younger women.”
“Oh, really. That’s right.”
“It’s better to be even one year younger. For my family, I am the most suitable woman. Health isn’t that important. Surprisingly, there are quite a few cases where people try to attract sick women, right? There’s a reason for everything.”
“That… , Go… ?”
Isn’t being healthy also important? Is not it? Like your brother said, isn’t it that important?
Suddenly, I remembered the distorted propaganda technique my youngest sister told me about.
Did I tell you to mix 90% of the truth with 100% of the lies?
“Huh. That’s it. It’s a natural instinct for my brother to like pretty, young women. Come to think of it, I guess the youngest woman around her brother is me, just 19 years old. Greatness. Greatness. Brother, do you know what I mean? When a baby is born, many things are already decided, so parents are that important. In my brother’s case, what matters is who the woman is who will receive his seed.”
To be honest, her youngest sister’s words were so boring that she almost fell asleep.
Her her last words she she were right in her her ears her her her.
There was a reason why I liked pretty, young women.
Natural human instinct!
“Sometimes, there are people who have vivid memories from before the age of 5 or 7, and they say that even when they were babies who could not speak, they understood everything. Even though they didn’t know difficult words, they understood their parents’ conversations even when they couldn’t speak. For example, if a couple fights over plastic dishes, the baby knows that mom and dad are fighting, even if they don’t know the difficult word ‘plastic.'”
“I see.”
She taught me that the basic way to prevent depression and suicide is to ‘blame others, blame society.’
It also showed that many things are already decided for humans from the time they are born and that they are greatly influenced by their surroundings.
Representative examples include era, nationality, and genes.
Therefore, it is also said that women who want excellent genes and a strong cage where those genes can grow well want an alpha male, and conversely, men want a young and pretty woman who will give birth to their genes in a healthy manner.〈 Br〉
They also told us that couples should never fight in front of a baby, even in front of a baby who cannot speak, because the baby feels everything the parents say, their intentions, and their emotions.
“Brother. So, let us never fight loudly or fight in front of our baby. If there is something to do, go out and do it. “Understand, right?”
Her youngest sister smiled brightly and spoke with emphasis.
It’s as if what she’s telling now is the most important out of the long story of her knowledge release.
For a moment, I thought that maybe I was building up to this point by draining my soul with difficult stories just to tell this story.